Imagine you are getting ready for a first date. If you’re like most people, you are already running through every possible scenario in your head. Everything from the possibility of falling in love at first sight, to the more nerve-inducing possibility of awkward silences over the dinner table.
If you’re one of the many people in this world looking for love, first dates are a part of the process. Unless you resign yourself to being a hermit for the rest of your life, there’s no way to get around them. No matter how confident, attractive, funny, or successful we are, there is something about a first date that throws our nerves into high gear. But don’t throw your arms up in despair just yet. It is time we learn to view the experience as an enjoyable one! Here are 5 great tips for reducing the first date jitters:
1. Keep it casual.
The purpose of a first date is simple. It is to establish a connection and see if there is a mutual chemistry there. You should always go somewhere that you feel comfortable and never somewhere that your safety is a concern. I would not suggest a movie or a loud bar. The point is to be able to have fun and hold a conversation. It also never hurts to have an exit strategy. In fact, some people make plans for after their first date so they don’t have to stress about how to end it.
2. Set the tone.
Putting your best foot forward starts before you even get to the date. Studies show that getting in a workout prior to a date is a great way to release endorphins and get your stress levels in check! While you’re getting ready, play some of your favorite tunes to keep yourself in a positive and upbeat mood. Still having jitters? Have a cup of chamomile tea before you go to calm your nerves. A glass of wine is okay too but be sure to limit yourself to just one! Anything beyond that can spell trouble.
3. Wear something comfortable.
No, this does not mean it is time to whip out your favorite old t-shirt and sneakers! However, it is also not the time to break in new 6-inch heels or try out the latest trend. Wear something that fits you well and lets your personality shine through. After all, no outfit can take the place of confidence.
4. Focus on the experience, not the outcome.
Pretend you’re going to hang out with a friend as a way to take the pressure off yourself. Get out of your own head and take a few deep breaths. Remember, your date is human too and is probably experiencing the same jitters you are! Make it your goal to have fun and try to get to know the other person.
5. Be prepared.
If the thought of running out of things to talk about is enough to make you want to stay in and watch an entire season of Scandal, you’re not alone. Make things easier by thinking of some topics beforehand. If you are going out on this date then you must be doing something right! You have their attention and they can’t wait to get to know you better. Keep yourself up to date on current events so you feel that you have things to add no matter where the conversation flows. Remember, this is a date, not a job interview. Keep it light-hearted and don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your date. If the energy is good then both of you will have a great time.
Being nervous before a first date is completely natural. Just keep some perspective. After all, first dates will never be in short supply!
Author: Jenna Davis