8 Matchmakers On How To Find A Date IRL
In a world where many singles are digital natives, it’s becoming increasingly easy to swipe for a date, rather than look up from our devices and notice all of the dateable people physically surrounding us every day. Sure, the perfect Tinder pick-up line may not be too hard to master (for most people), but what about interacting with someone the old-fashioned way?
With 38 percent of American singles now online dating, it’s time for a refresher on how to spark with someone IRL. For this, we consulted eight professional matchmakers to find out their best tips for meeting someone offline. While you can keep your online dating profile, in the name of efficiency, it only seems fair to put a little effort into your love life during the many hours you’re (hopefully) not looking at a screen.
Here’s what the matchmakers had to say:
8. Don’t go into a date thinking about your other options.
“Don’t go into a date thinking that there are hundreds of more men or women to choose from where he or she came from, pursuing some fantasy of your ideal perfect person. By thinking this way, you don’t give yourself or your date the chance for a normal in-person interaction. We’ve been programmed by our iPhones to click next, next, next — we’re becoming less human and more like computers. Often, someone that doesn’t fill all of your checkboxes on paper can turn out to be ‘the one.'” -Fay Goldman, Matchmaker, Meaningful Connections